I have a life coach that I see every few weeks, and right now she is having me focus on where I am at in my life right now and accepting myself fully in the present.
I’m finding myself getting too caught up in the future with thoughts like: ‘I really should be doing more’’ and ‘I should be getting more done towards xyz.’’ These sorts of internal remarks are making the steps to get to my goals overwhelming and as a result I’m standing still, doing nothing at all.
My life coach is having me do a little exercise to bring me back to the ‘here and now,’ in order to help me completely accept my life as it is, in this moment.
I’m learning that it’s important to accept life just as it is, always, because then you can take baby steps towards reaching your dreams; one at a time.
When you concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other, rather than focusing on the million miles between where you are now, and where you want to be; it’s sobering because we realise that the one step in front of us, is the only one that counts.
Until we take that one, we can’t deal with the ones that follow.
I’m in that place right now; looking a million miles ahead, but not being able to just put one foot in front of the other and take the first step.
Good, I know.
So this exercise she has got me doing is writing down – and facing – how I actually feel about my life at present. I am to write down all of the things I’m really happy with, and to admit the things I’m not happy with, and to simply sit with that.
After that, I must also plan out some action steps to change the bits I’m not satisfied with.
Below is my list of things I’m accepting about my own life, today.
I hope you might be able to relate… it’s so easy to get caught up in where we’re going or how we wished our lives looked, that we stop to see where we actually are.
+ I accept that my house doesn’t look like my Pintrest board just yet. (Thought I’d just start with the big ones!)
+ I accept that I don’t shop from Net-a-porter at the moment. (Another big one to swallow! For now, it’s champagne taste on a beer budget.)
+ I accept that I can’t afford to get manicures on a weekly basis.
+ I accept I don’t have it all figured out yet.
+ I accept that I’m still learning, and that it’s a process, and that I will get there; with life in general.
+ I accept that I’m not Jamie Oliver yet. I still buy sauces and marinades from the grocery store, instead of whipping them up in my food processor.
+ Okay, I now need to accept that I don’t yet have a food processor.
+ I accept there are some Friday nights that I just want to stay at home and do nothing. I accept that this is okay, and that I don’t have to say yes to everything for the sake of people pleasing, or in fear of missing out.
+ I accept that I don’t want to get up at 6am and exercise. I used to put a lot of pressure on myself to start doing this, but if I’m honest, it doesn’t suit me. I refuse to beat myself up over this, and instead just pick another time in the day when it feels better.
These are the things I’m accepting within my own life, today. Tomorrow might look completely different, but how can I face that with full presence if I can’t even look at today in the eye?
I encourage you to reflect a little bit here, get real and accept yourself exactly where you are today, in all your discomfort, or in all of your success (acknowledge that too).
It might not be where you wish you were, but it’s far more empowering to harness what is and making a plan from there; rather than dreaming about how you wish life looked, but taking no steps in its direction.